People these days seem to be putting a lot of pressure on their parents. If you leave home and start a new life with someone = that's great. If you have kids = that's great. But don't dump those kids on your parents because you can't handle them. That's not what your parents are there for!
Grandparents are OLD. That is why we call them - GRAND parents. They have spent their lives working, raising kids, paying bills, etc... At 70 years old = they are tired and they are worn down. That is why a lot of retirees wear shirts that have = "I'm retired - leave me alone!"
Of course, most grandparents like to visit with their kids and grandkids. A few minutes or a couple of hours is not a big deal. What is a big deal is when you USE your parents as a free daycare service or free UBER service.
I was in a store the other day and I saw an elderly grandmother trying to deal with 4 children = all under the age of 10. She was not doing a good job. The kids were running around and causing trouble in the store. I felt sorry for her. She should NOT have been responsible for all those kids on her own. She was TOO OLD to be caring for all those kids. That is why she was doing a lousy job at watching and disciplining those kids. And it shouldn't have been put on her to deal with.
The younger generation seems to be putting more and more stress on the older generation. They come home and squat on their parents because they can't make it in today's world. They use and abuse their parents without hesitation. You have a job and you have lots of useless things like phone bills, hair dresser bills, nail salon bills, etc... You dump your kids on your parents so that you don't have to pay for a babysitter that day and you can spend that money at the Hair Salon / Nail Salon. Your parents are stressed out, but you don't care because you have your Bling Bling nails and fancy hairstyle!
Grandparents are having their Golden Years cut short by selfish, abusive young people. Young people that are taking them for granted, and using them up like they do with everything they come in contact with. After they are gone, they toss them aside and move on.
It's sad to see so many elderly people being treated this way. You see on the news of an incident with a young child being hurt and the poor grandmother being blamed. That poor grandmother should not be burdened with the responsibility of taking care of all the grandkids her children put into this world.
These days the elderly are NOT treated very well. I hope that in the future we have a generation that thinks of others instead of themselves. It is a dream. But I hope it comes true!
Take care,
LK
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